When I was at school, in my mid teens, I was relentlessly and pretty badly bullied for a couple of years. It was very bad stuff, mostly but not always psychological. I can see now, with the benefit of hindsight that being just a little bit autistic – on the scale as my beloved friend Dr Pesta puts it – I probably stood out a little from the “gang”, and that’s all it takes. How well I remember “Hate Gildas” day being scrawled in huge letters on the blackboard. Lots of stuff like that.
It followed what is probably a classic pattern: Picking on the socially gauche or inept one, organised by a snide and ill-favoured ringleader who got others to be his “enforcers”, the pack mentality of everyone going along for the ride. I am pleased to say that it also ended in a classic manner. After a couple of years of gruelling misery I made up my mind, and when the ringleader bad-mouthed me again I punched him in the face. It wasn’t much of a punch, but it was my best effort. He looked stunned. He said something like “Don’t so that again!” So, I did. From that moment the bullying just stopped. All his pals abandoned him and the pursuit. Later I took up kick boxing and other martial arts and I was never bullied again. That said, I have no doubt that it affected me and my social confidence. I have often wondered what the ramifications may have been.
Anyway, that is why I hate bullies. And why I got so enraged when I saw the video below on a social media site. I warn you, I found it profoundly upsetting, and I do mean enraged. It speaks for itself. The bully in chief, the amused onlookers too scared, weak-willed or entertained to intervene – and with the new angle of social media. What, I wonder were the motives of whoever took this? Were they to bring the wrongdoer to account, by furnishing evidence to the Police? I doubt it. But by a happy chance, this matter has been reported to Police Scotland. I have done so. I don’t know, but I assume many others have done so.
By the way I have a name for the bully, but I will not post it – suppose I am wrong. However, I hope social media can now be a powerful means of bringing swift justice to her, and all the misery she deserves.
I can report that a 15 year-old girl has been charged by Cowdenbeath Police. This is evil. Evil is always ugly. We must always be watchful, for it renews itself. The struggle for good never ceases.
Gildas the Monk